Confidence

A lot of people tend to ask me what am I attracted to or what is my type in a woman. My answer was always the same. "I don't know it till I see it." To be honest I seriously didn't know. I didn't know what it was about a woman that would attract me to them. There were a few things that would catch my attention, raise my eye brow, and make me give a double take. For me to explain what these things were let me start from the beginning. In elementary I was attracted to how well the girl would play with me in sports. I.E soccer, kick ball, basketball etc....When I was in Jr. High I was attracted to how a girl did her hair and what type of shoes she would wear. I know I know..."shoes" sound really shallow of me to judge a girl on but I was 13 so give me a break. When in high school I was and I know I'm not the only one here.. the ULTIMATE shallow person. I only wanted to talk to girls who dressed in name brand clothes, fresh kicks, hella make up on, nice bodies, light skin, hung out with only the "cool kids". Man this list sounds pathetic to me haha but its the truth. Anyways out of high school I got a brain and started to see girls for more then looks. I started to notice personalities. Humor, intelligence, and kindness started to play a BIG factor on how I felt about a girl. Come to think of it these traits actually did matter to me in jr high and high school but I didn't want to pay attention to those that much. Kinda like the saying.."it's not your beauty, it's your booty". Yea that pretty much sums it up for me back then. By now your asking yourself well what attracts you now? What is your type of woman that you look for? Well I finally know my answer! It makes so much sense to me now thinking of it and I seriously don't know how I didn't realize it sooner! It CONFIDENCE! If you're a hip hop head you can go head and que the X-Zibit song.

 Other then that we can go on with this blog. Confidence is such a turn on to me. My attraction with confidence starts back when I was in elementary. Let me explain, remember when I said I was attracted to how a girl would play sports with me?? Back then if you were a tom boy almost every girl who wasn't didn't like you. So for you to have the confidence to not care about what your peers thought of you while you played sports was what I was attracted to. Yea I'm getting deep yall. Now as for my shallowness in jr high and high school, well I can explain one. The other reasons can be explained by me being a dumb ass insecure teenager that didn't know any better. But enough of me clowning myself...The way a girl would dress herself caught my eye a lot. Now I know I mentioned earlier I was only into girls that wore name brand but let's be honest here. I wasn't checking every girls tag. To me if you looked nice in an outfit that you were wearing it would show on your face. I don't know about some of you but when I tend to dress up I get more confidence and it shows. Now we move on to the personality traits and these are very big to me. Not to toot my own horn here but I have been with beautiful women but never got into a real relationship because they were lacking humor, brains, and kindness. To me all those have something to do with confidence. Just think a smart person tends to voice their own opinions on subjects. They tend not to have someone walk all over them. The reason why, confidence. I'm not staying they are the smartest person on the earth or that they can answer a hundred math questions in under 20 seconds. I am talking about being smart enough to know their self worth. To know they don't have to go from relationship to relationship just to feel loved or wanted. To know they don't have to look or talk a certain way to get acceptance from others. That all comes from being confident. The kindness comes from the confidence not to care about what others may say or think of you for helping someone out. Just truly thinking of the other individual who is need of help rather then yourself. Now the humor is a very big attraction to me. I tend to be a funny goofy person so when it comes to me being funny or goofy I tend to do it for myself and not others because I seriously don't know what is funny to the next man but that doesn't stop me from cracking a joke here or there. I know some that won't say the joke because they lack the confidence and don't want to be ridiculed for making the joke. Pfft forget that! Girl say the joke! Have the confidence to not care what others may say for what YOU think is funny. At the end of the day being confident is just you being yourself and that is truly what I want in a woman. Confidence and a big booty lol. A person is smart, people are dumb.